Where has the pleasure gone?

Last year when my grandson was in the hospital, before he was diagnosed with SMA Type 1, someone said to either my daughter or myself the following:

“Some children are like dandelions, they bloom where ever they are planted. Other children are like orchids and need just the right conditions to thrive”

That saying keeps coming back to me even though we know he was even more special that an orchid.  I have since changed it to “some people”.   I personally know that I am more like an orchid. I use to like to think I bloomed where ever I was planted but some heavy stress in my life showed me other wise in my health.

As I type, the snow if falling at a nice steady rate outside my window. It’s the winter that wont seem to end. I laughed the other night as a commercial told me it was time to feed my lawn. What lawn? I am not sure I will see my lawn for several more months at this rate. Usually I like to plant my peas around St. Patrick’s day but it’s not going to happen with the couple of feet of snow covering my veggie garden box.

All of these are signs it’s still time to keep life at a slower pace for now and enjoy it while we can. My life has been filled with signs to take life slower. I laughed the other day as I was singing along to a new favorite tune on the radio and realized even the song is about taking your time.

Winter is a time of going in and reflecting. I sat reflecting on my life, the recent job changes I have made in my part-time gotta work for insurance job and even in my health coaching practice. How I am going back from the rush, rush, rush or trying to be super woman to simply being myself and finding pleasure in my days. Even if I have to carve it out for myself and tell people no.

Finding pleasure in your life is important to your physical, emotional and spiritual health. If you don’t believe me look around at those people in your life who are stressed out and then those who might be super busy but are happy and glowing with health. I am sure the key to it is pleasure.

So here’s my top 5 ways to find pleasure and slow down in my life to improve my health and well-being.

1. Savor my meals. Take the time to actually taste the food. Not just shovel it in.

2. Breathe.  We all breathe naturally but do you really take the time to take a deep breath and exhale. Mindfully breathing?

3. Stop and stare. Take a moment out of your day to do nothing. Stare out a window, stop at beach, sit on  a bench. Just take a moment to do nothing.

4. Gratitude. Be thankful for what you do have in your life.Take the time to journal it , write a thank you note and let folks know you care.

5. Me time.  Take time each day to do something you love or that makes you smile. If it brings joy to others bonus!


I’m not so sure our world is feeding us the message to take care of ourselves and find what is right for each of us. For a long time I was going at full speed, trying to bloom where I was planted and far to plugged in.  The cost as I mentioned before, was my health. It also stole my joy.

Where is your pleasure? What will you do for yourself today to being your joy?  Life it to short to not enjoy the one life we were given. Stop and really think about it.

Untill next time.


P.S.  If you’re having a hard time with your health, weight or just being sick and tired of  being sick and tired, click on my health coaching link on the upper right side of this blog.  I’d love to help you on your journey to getting back to finding pleasure in your life.


Decorating the table – flowers

I am not so sure when I learned to set a table or why I’ve always loved making a table look pretty. Somehow I think it has to do with both my grandmothers but then an image of my 8th grade home ec teacher comes to mind. It could even be the countless hours I watched PBS and Julia Childs. Wasn’t her table always pretty?

Today I thought I’d share just a few tips on buying flowers and show you a few bouquets I made picking from single stem selections at one of my favorite local stores. With Mother’s Day right around the corner I figured this might be a timely post.

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I love flowers and currently have several bouquets around the house along with some plants. I keep a couple of orchids as well and for May Day gave my daughter a beautiful orchid.

When choosing and orchid you want to look at the leaves.  Make sure they are green and free of spots. It’s always good to look for an orchid with blooms that have not opened. This way you can enjoy more of its beauty as the blossoms open. Understand that the flowers will die and when that part of the plant is gone your orchid in not dead. Most come with directions and all you need to do is simply water weekly and give a fertilizer made for orchids monthly. Also keeping them warm is a great idea. They like sun but not direct sun.

photo 1Tulips are another great cut flower but they don’t last to long.  When selecting tulips know that they are shipped usually with very little to know water and often are kept that way to keep them from opening up. Look at the blossom and look for bright colors and that tight.  Next check the stems and leaves. Make sure they are free of any possible mold or signs of deterioration. When you get your tulips home you want to trim off a good 1/2 inch and place in cool water. Keep our of direct sunlight and away from sources of heat.  Also pull of any leaves that will in the water. This should be done with all flowers as it keeps the water from going sour and helps keep your flowers fresh longer.



My Easter Lilies, two weeks later and still blooming

My Easter Lilies, two weeks later and still blooming

Lillies are another flower I love. Though I have to admit to a few things I am not fond of with them for fresh flowers. The smell can be overpowering and not to pleasant to some folks. They can be messy and stain fabrics with the pollen. Beyond that I love them. I hae some that flower outside in my garden and love to buy them in bouquets. Often like tulips they are shipped dry and might be sold with very little water. Again this is to keep them from blooming till you get them home, cut the bottoms and place in cool water.

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Looking for a flower that will last a long time? Alstroemeria is the flower for you. No scent but very beautiful. As long as you keep adding fresh water to the container you keep them in these cut flowers can last you two weeks or more. They come in a bunch of beautiful colors and are great in mixed bouquets.

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Wax flower is a fun way to add a little color, green and that wild flower look to your bouquet or alone to your table. In the picture above it is the pink flowers you see with the fern like greenery.  They have no scent.  In this bouquet I used Freesia, which has an amazing fruity smell.  And I used Daffodils. I’ll mention this just again, these are often shipped dry and sold with no water. Look for tight blooms that are not dried out, cut and place in cool water at home and they will liven right back up. The daffodils traveled all the way from Ireland to be at my table.

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Again using wax flowers, daffodils and this time Iris. I was pretty fond of the wax flowers while I could get them this spring. They were just so much fun and so pretty at the table.

So my quick tips on buying flowers are :

1. Don’t just look at the flowers, looks at stems and leaves to check for health of the plants you are buying.

2. Buy flowers early in the day if possible. Most stores get their deliveries in the morning with the rest of their perishable goods.

3. Don’t be afraid to ask for help when selecting flowers to get more information on how long they will last or when hey arrived.

4. If your flowers are not going home after your shopping wrap in a damp paper towel or cloth to keep them fresh.

5. Always trim the bottoms of all fresh-cut flowers and remove any leaves that would be in the water.

6. Use cool water and don’t be afraid to change it or add more

7. Have fun picking flowers and making up your own bouquets. There is no wrong or right way.


Till next time, take time to smell and enjoy the flowers!





I’ve been missing….



I really can’t believe it’s been since October that I last put a post up for this blog. I really didn’t think it had been that long. I really have been missing.

I have also been missing cooking. Over the summer I quit my part-time job and took a full-time job. I work a lot of nights and so that means my family is used to a new chef or me leaving a crockpot with dinner in it.

I’ve been missing my family around the dinner table and hearing the silliness that is that warm spot in my heart.

I’m missing being creative, both in the kitchen and out of it. I miss writing on this blog, I miss taking pictures of food, heck I miss eating out at places, snapping pictures and posting reviews!

I’ve also been missing feeling like myself. Something as a health coach I have been pretty darn embarrassed to admit. I’ve been struggling with a health issue for months….ok honestly longer. I just didn’t know how bad it was getting. I was telling a dear friend today that for the first time in a long time I am feeling like I am coming slowly out of a really dark place in my life.

I’ve been doing a lot of thinking and soul-searching while I find my way out of this dark spot and slowly get my health back.  I’ve decided to let a few things go.  I’ll be sharing a few those things as time goes on. For right now I want to share with my readers who also follow my health coaching biz, Lucid Wellness, that I am officially closing it.  *GASP*  This will happen this upcoming week.

Now that doesn’t mean I wont be a health coach. I still am and to be honest, in my heart always will be. I just wont be doing it under the business name, Lucid Wellness, any longer.  While I love the name, the logo my husband lovingly created for me and all the support local small business have given me, I feel like there is a disconnect from me, Shelly, the health coach and person with a heart for helping others.

I am still here to help anyone who would like help. I am just going to be doing it much differently. I am still here for anyone wanting reiki sessions. If you’re looking for help learning to cook, I am still here as well.

What has been missing , or what I have been missing while running a business the way I was taught to do, with all these expectations and rules is doing things my way. I also hid a little about some of my other gifts. I am also an intuitive. There have been many times while doing a reiki session or even a health coaching session I have received messages from the angels and guides of the person I am working with. It has perplexed me how to share these things with others. I finally just started sharing. Especially after one angel became very persistent and I saw how important the message was to the person who needed to receive it.  I have been worried what that would do to my “brand”.  Silly I know.


There’s a lot I would love to share in this post but I think it would end up being a book. What I would like to share before closing this is, I plan on getting back into cooking and sharing here on this blog. After all it was cooking that helped save me before, it can do it again along with other tools I have in my bag. I will be switching from posting recipes on Tuesday to Friday.

It hasn’t been uncommon for me to post something about health on this page and I plan on doing that. I will be sharing in the future what the health issue has been that is going on with me and what has worked and what hasn’t.  I feel like I need to share to help others.

I look forward to sharing good health and great food with you!